Most if not all of our behaviours, to a higher or
lesser degree, are affected by such influences as observations;
fears; experiences; information; heat; cold; medication;
recognition; education; disorders of various natures;
desires; pain; illness; rewards; stress; praise; failure
etc. to mention a few. There are countless influences
that affect our behaviours. Even when some influences
may be similar in nature, they do not affect each person
in the same manner. Understanding such helps us significantly
in recognizing that children easily act out the burden
of their past such as abuse or neglect. If we can recognize
this we are more able not to take it personal when a
child "acts out" that burden of his or her
"Our will can only be free if it is free of the
effect of any influences that causes the choices it makes
and we execute".
Thus "creating new influences
that have a positive effect may cause positive choices" or "becoming
aware of the negative effect certain influences have
on the choices we make, while being unable to consistently
change those choices", may inspire us to allow better
influences affect us, thus contributing to better choices
of which we and others may experience the benefits. When
those better influences, from internal or external sources,
remain consistent their effect may produce lasting improvement
in behaviour as it is manifested in the choices we make.
Therefore "today started yesterday and the best
chance we have to change tomorrow starts today".
Recognizing the above we believe that we must make every
effort to treat the underlying factors of undesired behaviours
or experiences of the child. Although we cannot ignore
a child's behaviour we also recognize that simply
dealing with behaviour only has little long term effect.
We will make every possible effort in our treatment to
create influences which will positively affect the child's
behaviour, skills and experiences.
Food for thought:
Could every choice, for example, have
its own kind of DNA and only an alteration in the DNA
can produce a different choice which we than execute?" "Are
we aware of the internal process preceding every choice
we make?" "Can choices be made that stand alone,
without being affected in any way by any influence of
any kind whether or not we are aware of them?" What
do we really say when we mention: "If I would have
known that I would not have done it"?